bullying

Today I’ve been thinking about bullying.

I know when i use the word “bully,” certain images come to mind: images of a mean 4th grader telling another 4th grader that she’s fat, or a group of jr. high girls blatantly “shunning” another girl, or maybe the image of a cocky college football player comes to mind.

But bullying takes so many different forms. I see it everyday in so so many places. Chase Bank recently “bullied” me into following their policies even though i was told differently. Time Warner cable recently bullied a friend of mine by quoting him several different rates for the same cable package. The big 3 auto-makers bullied our governement into handing them tax-payer money, even though their collapse was based on their poor business model. Churches all over the world “bully” people into agreeing with them. Churches use hell, the bible, emotions, traditions, and membership as leverage to get people to follow. Renters use a well-i-own-this-property mentality to bully rentees into submission.

Notice that each of these “bullies” may use a different form:

  • Chase bank used their policies to “bully”
  • Time Warner used their costomer service department to “bully”
  • Auto-Makers use the personal stories of their employees to “bully”
  • Churches matipulate the words of Jesus and God to “bully”
  • Renters use their “ownership” to bully
  • I’m not saying that these “bullies” have no right to whatever they are getting, they do. I am saying that they could get the exact same thing without bullying. They could simply respect and love people.

    Also, people tend to leave and move away from bullies. Bullies end up as things of the past. I’m leaving Chase bank. MY buddy is leaving Time Warner. Millions of people are leaving the big-3 automakers and moving to something else (honda, toyota, etc…). And everyone knows about a dozen people who have been pissed off by churches in one way or another.

    So this is my new resolution: if people are bullies, i’m leaving (then they’ve got no one to bully) and also, i’m not going to be the bully.

    Jesus said his yoke was easy and his burden was light. He scolded religious leaders for lording their authority over people. Jesus didn’t like bullies (even if they were “technically” correct). In fact, no one like bullies.

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    One response to this post.

    1. Boycotting came to mind when I read your post but leaving and boycotting are two different things in my mind. A lot of people boycott until they get their way but leaving is an act of finality.

      You did this…so I’m out.

      not…

      You did this, so I’m out…until you do what I want.

      Good post. I like it when you share your personal thoughts.

      Reply

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