Posts Tagged ‘pastor’

They never change because it’s easy

I have a personal trainer. He puts me through grueling workouts and – by the end – I pretty much dispise him. He makes me do more when I think I can’t. He pushes me to finish the workout even though my heart near failure and my vision is blurry (i’m not exagerating). At the end of yesterday’s workout I asked him, “Do people ever just get pissed off at you?” He replied, “Yeah, all the time. I have one women who I train who always calls me ‘a&%hole’.”

He went on: “I mean, I know I’m making people work hard. They’re paying me – voluntarily – for results. So that’s what I’m pushing them towards. They can quit whenever they want.”

They he said something that struck me so deeply: “I come in here everyday and see people jogging or doing the eliptical and you know what…they never change. You know why they never change? Because it’s easy.

How many times, do those of us who are part of a church body – slink back from really challenging people?

Think about this you paid church staff: People are vountarily paying you. Just like my personal trainer, they’re paying you (and me) for results. They want a pastor. They want to be lead like sheep. Yes, sometimes they’ll complain. Heck, they’ll even refuse to do the workout you’re giving them. But ultimately, no one is forcing them to be a part of your church.

So the challege is to push. Push harder. Push deeper. Push them to the extrememes. Ask them to do hard things. They may complain, but that’s what they really want.

10 Signs You’re a Bad Leader

Scott Williams pumped out a baller list called “10 signs you’re a bad leader.” Here is an exerpt, head to Scott’s blog to check out the rest:

  1. they are not willing to fail.
  2. they only talk and never listen.

Books you should read

I think I’ve made a list similar to this in the past, but I’m going to do it again. Buy these books. Read them. Eat them. Absorb the nutrients, discard the waste….. OK. That’s enough.

-these books are important to me:

  • The Secret Message of Jesus – Some people think McLaren is a heretic, some don’t. Who cares, I think this book rocks. Changed my faith.
  • How People Grow – Cloud and Townsend are golden. They write great stuff that is SO applicable if your ministry is about helping people grow. Every minister and small group leader ought to read this gem.
  • Youth Ministry 3.0 – Marko writes a manifesto for the future of youth ministry. Sign me up.
  • Sex God – Rob Bell sets the framework for sexuality and relationships.
  • The Great Emergence – Phyllis Tickle paints the past in giant brushstrokes and shows us how faith and culture emerge and change.
  • Revisiting Relational Youth Ministry – If you work for Young Life or Youth for Christ, don’t read it. You’ll either quit your job or hate the entire book.
  • Wild at Heart – Some people hate this book. I loved it. Read it 3 times.
  • Tribes – Seth Godin is golden. Everyone knows it. Deal with it.
  • Death by Meeting – This book made me rethink what by beliefs about the “norms” of office life.
  • Cradle to Cradle – Every government in the world should make this book a law. Would solve all the environment problems in one swoop. Heaven will look like the cities described in this book.
  • Contemplative Youth Ministry – Read this book twice. I wish my ministry looked more like this.
  • Your Money or Your Life – A foundational book about understanding money and resources.
  • The Total Money Makeover – Dave Ramsey is an icon i look to for so many reasons.