I know a lot of parents of students read this blog. I thought I’d share some resources that may help you understand why your teenagers act the way I do.
If you’ve got a middle school students, this link may help bring some clarity: http://www.aacap.org/page.ww?name=Normal+Adolescent+Development+Part+I§ion=Facts+for+Families
If you’ve got a high school student, this link may help: http://www.aacap.org/page.ww?name=Normal+Adolescent+Development+Part+II§ion=Facts+for+Families
Take this situation. I walk into a place filled with students. Let’s say a basketball game (or we could say sunday morning church). I see a ton of students. Tons. I go and chat with the ones I know. As I’m doing that, I notice some other students. I feel like I should go say, “hey” to them, but I don’t want to be that lame person, so I don’t.
I choose coolness over closeness.
That is a mistake that I regularly make. Soon enough, I think I’ll grow to take myself a little less seriously and start jumping into students’ lives like I know I should/can, but for now I seem to dread being “uncool.”
I don’t know what it is about me or what it is about the nature of my profession but – for some reason – i seem to value people thinking I’m cool..
This is pointless and a hinderance to my ministry. By choosing “cool,” I’m also choosing to remain distant. And being distant from those I’m ministering to/with/among has no place in my life.